Funeral Flowers & Remembrance — Flowers for difficult times
Which flowers are appropriate for a funeral? Wreaths, grave decorations, colors, and etiquette.
In times of grief, many people struggle to find the right words. Flowers cannot replace them — but they express sympathy, respect, and solidarity when words fail.
Traditional funeral flowers
- White lilies : THE symbol of mourning and hope. They represent the purity of the soul and eternal life. The classic funeral flower in Austria.
- White roses: sincerity, respect, and farewell. Elegant and timeless.
- Chrysanthemums : In many European countries, the number one flower for mourning. In Austria, they are traditionally placed on graves on All Saints' Day.
- Carnations: Represent loyalty and deep connection. White carnations symbolize sincere grief.
- Forget-me-not: "I will never forget you" — the name says it all.
- Calla lily: Elegant, sculptural form. Symbolizes beauty in farewell.
Colors and their meaning
- White : purity, innocence, peace. The classic color of mourning in Western Europe.
- Violet/Purple : Dignity, mourning, spirituality. The color of mourning since the Middle Ages.
- Soft pink : Gentle affection. Suitable for younger deceased persons or close female friends.
- Yellow : A reminder of sunny times. Can be appropriate for a celebration of life.
- Red : Deep love and respect. Red roses for a partner or a close family member.
Forms of funeral floristry
Funeral wreath
The wreath — without beginning or end — symbolizes eternity . Traditionally made of fir, moss or ivy, decorated with flowers and a mourning ribbon with a personal dedication.
Funeral arrangement
An oblong or round arrangement for standing or laying on a surface. Less formal than a wreath, but just as respectful.
Funeral bouquet
A tied bouquet — more personal and less formal. Well suited for close friends and family or as a condolence gift at home.
Grave decorations
For the grave: bowls with plants (heather, chrysanthemums, pansies), candles, and seasonal arrangements. Especially important on All Saints' Day (November 1st) in Austria.
Etiquette and instructions
- Ribbon: Wreaths and floral arrangements include a mourning ribbon — with the sender's name and a short dedication (e.g., "In silent sympathy", "Rest in peace", "Forever in our hearts").
- Delivery: Funeral flowers are usually delivered directly to the funeral home, church or funeral parlor — not to the family at home (unless as a personal condolence gift).
- Timing: Ideally, have it delivered the day before or on the morning of the funeral.
- Religious customs: Some religions and cultures have specific rules (e.g., no flowers at Orthodox Jewish funerals, certain colors in Islam). If unsure, ask the florist or the family.
Personal instead of standard: Incorporating the deceased person's favorite flowers or color into the funeral bouquet makes the flowers personal and shows that you really knew the person.
Condolence flowers at home
Flowers that are sent to or brought to the grieving family:
- A simple white bouquet: lilies, roses, or chrysanthemums. Not too big—the family has enough to organize.
- A potted plant: A peace tree (Spathiphyllum) or an orchid. Long-lasting and easy to care for — a lasting memento.
- Timing: Not on the day of the funeral (when the family is busy), but in the days afterwards — when silence descends and grief is at its most difficult.
Funeral floristry at MO BLUMEN Vienna
Funeral wreaths, floral arrangements and condolence bouquets — with personal consultation.
Frequently Asked Questions
White lilies, white roses, chrysanthemums, and carnations are the classic choice. A funeral wreath or arrangement with a ribbon is customary for more formal occasions, while a tied bouquet is more personal. Lilac and violet are also appropriate. It's best to consult a florist.
Classic phrases include: "With deepest sympathy — [Name]", "Rest in peace", "With love and gratitude", "Forever in our hearts", "We miss you." A personal touch is always more meaningful than a standard formula. The florist can help with the wording.
Yes — it's becoming increasingly common for obituaries to request donations instead of flowers. In this case, please follow the request and donate to the named organization. If no request is made, flowers are always appropriate. Some people send both: a small donation and a simple bouquet.
